oh yeah? curious to know whats wrong with em?

I know after a while l just made a private server with a few friends but didnt think official was bad

First of all, the basic ruleset isn't that great, and certainly doesn't fit everyone's taste. Gods are a good example, and unregulated PvP tends to be tiresome for many. Private servers tend to have more balanced rulesets, and you can pick and choose what suits you the most.
For instance, many restrict offline raiding, so people can attack your base only when you're around to defend, instead of waking up one day and finding that all your work has been destroyed when you could do nothing about it.

The most relevant issue is that no one really takes care of official servers, so they're a wild west. Private servers tend to have active admins that will keep things running smoothly.

Mods are the icing on the cake. There are many (only on PC) that improve the game by a lot.

Damn I know what you mean about Two Worlds because I was so looking forward to it only to be very disappointed! Same with Legendary the Box but anyways thanks for the info!

I'm gonna give it s go but I've tempered my expectations. Thanks for the info!